A mother who swears and yells at her 10-year-old son and called him an "asshole" on Facebook because that is what "he is" and said it is important that her Facebook friends know the truth demonstrated a "lack of insight," an Albany appellate panel has held in awarding a father sole custody.
The Appellate Division, Third Department, last week agreed with St. Lawrence County Family Court Judge Barbara Potter, who has since retired, that joint custody is no longer viable and awarded sole custody of the three children to the father.
Matter of Melody M. v. Robert M., 513361, began when the mother sought to change the visitation schedule and the father sought sole custody.
Records show that the oldest child suffers from mental health issues and undergoes counseling. The mother does not participate in the counseling because she does not like the counselor, uses physical force to restrain the boy, and tends to yell at her son and disparage him, according to court records.
Potter declined to alter the visitation schedule, awarded the father sole custody and imposed an order of protection barring the mother from posting communications about the children on any social network site. The mother appealed, and the Third Department unanimously affirmed.
"[T]here was sufficient evidence regarding the mother's inappropriate use of the Internet to demean and disparage the oldest child, as well as her lack of remorse or insight into the inappropriateness of such behavior, so as to justify the court's issuance of the order of protection," Justice Robert Rose (See Profile) wrote for the court.
John Cirando of Syracuse argued for the mother. The father was represented by Luke Babbie of Poissant, Nichols & Grue in Malone and Verner Ingram Jr. of Potsdam appeared for the children.
Cirando said the order of protection barring the mother from mentioning her children on social media has potential negative consequences.
"It is unfortunate that it prevents her from telling all of her friends that her son hit a game-winning home run in a baseball game or scored the winning goal or was on the honor roll," Cirando said.